La Jolla author touches a chord with modern mothers

“The Book of Mom,” author Taylor Wilshire’s second release, debuted this month, just in time for Mother’s Day.

Tate, the book’s heroine, finds herself burned out on motherhood. She has lost her sense of self, the passion in her marriage has fizzled and mornings spent with moppets are suddenly no longer fulfilling.

“She’s burnt out,” Wilshire said. “She’s like, ‘Why is my life not working?”

Done in a style Wilshire calls self-help fiction, she uses her characters to demonstrate the positive affects of spirituality and other practical tools for taking care of one’s self. Tate regains her balance and authenticity through mediation, exercise, living in her passion, keeping a gratitude journal, conscientious parenting and remaining present in the moment.

“These aren’t new ideas,” Wilshire said, comparing Tate’s self-care strategies to those similar to new moms receiving advice to sleep when the baby is sleeping.

“I can definitely relate to the main character,” Wilshire, herself a mother and wife, said. “I think all moms have gone to that place.”

Wilshire’s first book, “The What If Guy?” published in 2006, was the story of a young, single woman. Tate’s story is the next phase of life for most women.

Marriage, career, hobbies, lifestyle – literally everything – changes when children come along. Many times women forfeit everything else in their lives for motherhood. Wilshire wanted to show women how to find a way to have at least a little bit of it all.

One of the most significant lessons Wilshire learned while writing “The Book of Mom” was a parenting style called Redirecting Children’s Behavior (RCB). One of the elements encouraged by RCB instructors is the concept of “drop and go.”

“That’s the moment where you drop what you’re doing, you forego the musty smell in the laundry, you set the skillet aside and you sit down next to your children,” Wilshire said. “You’re connecting to them. Conscientious parenting is about being in the now with your child and not letting your mind go into the past or the future.”

A former sales executive for a Fortune 500 company, Wilshire approaches writing from a marketing perspective versus awaiting inspiration from her creative muse. Before composing “The Book of Mom,” she organized a focus group and talked to more than 25 mothers of all different ages at different points in life. She asked them to identify not only the issues that were significant for them, but what they wanted to read.

Most said something with short chapters that was light and entertaining but with insight that could help them now.

This market analysis rewarded Wilshire in ways she did not anticipate.

“We’re really all the same at the core, and I love that,” she said. “We all have something to share, we all have something to contribute, and we can all support and learn from one another. If you’re willing to reach out, there’s someone going through exactly what you’re going through.”

Wilshire’s next book is based on a true story about a woman who was institutionalized, despite not being mentally ill.

“It’s similar to self-help fiction, but it’s a much deeper and intense story,” she said.

Wilshire is scheduled for several local appearances, including Warwick’s Mother’s Day Weekend Mini Author Retreat & Luncheon on May 10 at 10 a.m., Riford Library at 2 p.m. on May 17 and the Mira Mesa Barnes & Noble at 2 p.m. on June 7.

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